First thing you need to know is Confidence is not they will like me. Then what is confidence? Confidence is I’ll be ‘OK’ if they don’t. Expecting everyone to like us is setting up ourselves for failure. There is no one in the world that is liked by everyone. just look at Twitter and Instagram, Even the people you adore and admire are criticized by so many. How you feel about yourself when you’re by yourself is true confidence. Instead of asking others, how do I look in this? ask yourself, How do I look in this?
- Define for yourself what is important to you.
- What you value.
- what you believe is the definition of happiness and success.
No amount of compliments will matter if you don’t compliment yourself. No amount of likes on Instagram will matter if you don’t like yourself. and if change what you like so that others like you, then you will end up hating yourself. When you feel pretty when someone says it, your beauty is dependent on them. when you only feel smart when someone says so, your intelligence is dependent on them. When you feel successful when someone sees it, your success is dependent on them. You can spend your whole life spending money you don’t have, buying things you don’t need to impress people you don’t like. You can spend your whole life trying to be seen by becoming someone you don’t know, to be liked by people you don’t like. when you start seeing your worth you wont need others to see it. When you start seeing your worth you’ll find it harder to say around people you don’t.
Remember, a flower doesn’t think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.